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These posts are my musings and cover many topics.  Some posts will be observations that I have made over my lifetime...some will be what I call, truisms.  Truisms that I have developed from having to deal with the tough situations life sometimes deals us.  I developed these little philosophies to help me avoid a situation in the future or  to allow me to have a better outcome the next time around.  All observations, truisms , and whatever other post this blog contains are  based on my own personal experiences and  opinions.  Hopefully, some post will be of some help to someone in a situation or  give someone another perspective...another way of looking/thinking about a situation that is helpful.  I love writing these posts and I appreciate you  reading them :-)

Please be aware there is a NEW  feature added to  some of the Musings.....AUDIO....There will be an audio bar on those Musings that offer this option.....You may not feel like reading at that moment....now you may listen:-)

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"All our words are but crumbs that fall down from the feast of the mind."- Gibran

I know I like you because......

8/15/2013

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Communication has always been a way that we determine how we feel about someone....whether it be in a personal or business sense.  My career was in communications...face to face mostly , but, a good deal written also. However,  it was the face to face interactions(or telephone) where  I had to show what kind of person I was and determine what kind of person I was dealing with.  There were also behaviors that helped make this decision.  You would see behaviors and hear the tone of voice...after a few minutes of conversing with someone...say a  neighbor...and observing their day to day behaviors  over time...we could say...such a nice person ! ..or, good grief, will have to avoid them if I can!


Today, it is different, by far.  I find myself determining if I "like", trust, or want anything to do with someone by their written communications  and written behaviors over time.  This topic has been on my mind recently as I was thinking and making a decision about  someone based exclusively on their written communications and behaviors.  I also realized that this was exactly what people have been doing about me :-)  How else could we do it if that is all  we have? Many times , that IS all we have in our online communications society.


I really like this way better than the face to face and observation method because it is a faster , more efficient, and accurate way to discern what a person is like.  We don't have the distractions of looks, facial expressions, body language, etc. (all which can easily be faked).  We do have    behaviors/communications in email responses, chat room , sound cloud, and facebook interactions.  Written communications go directly to the  mind and heart without distractions.  Many communications(and associated behaviors) over time, tell me if this is a person I want to continue to communicate with or if this person is, perhaps, mean, insensitive, inconsiderate, rude, self-serving and  can't be trusted with my thoughts and feelings.  These interactions will also tell me if their heart and mind are in the right place.


I am sure others are thinking about my communications also. I, personally, have met many wonderful, nice, kind, and very interesting people from online communications.  I have met people I call....friend.  I have also run into a few with the less desirable qualities I mentioned, but, we do that in face to face communications also.


I believe that we are doing this discernment without even realizing it. We assess other people's email/chat responses...are they abrupt or are they kind...do they follow thru...are they polite and respectful...are they consistent in what they say and how they say it.  I mean, we have a wealth of info that we don't have in face to face communications to determine if we basically "like" someone....how great is that? :-)


However, just as in face to face communications, it is a process over time and one that requires adjustments as more info is acquired.....but, isn't that what we  do in face to face ?


Thus :
"Written communications and their associated behaviors go directly to the heart and mind without distraction"


So.....why do I like you?....just ask me:-)
2 Comments
A-Life-Of-Song
8/22/2013 11:20:39 am

While I do agree that a lot can be determined through written communications, I also believe an old saying in my mother tongue "paper is patient". Sometimes people are comfortable lying on paper, but less so face-to-face when you can look them in the eye.

And then I think there are people who simply don't like writing and are uncomfortable doing it. I know a number of people who hate talking on a telephone causing them to sound abrupt and even rude. They don't mean to be, but that's how they come across to those who don't know them. I suppose the same will be true for some people in writing..

On the other hand, which is the specific aspect you are talking about, some of us tend to reveal more in the written word than the spoken word. I fall firmly into that category- outspoken in writing but introverted when speaking, with a few exceptions to the rule. Want to know me? Sure. Write to me. If you go the trouble of reading with care, you'll learn a great deal that way...unless I don't want you to know me, I'll dodge your questions carefully, expertly, and you might not even notice it...;)

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Mellow Cello link
8/22/2013 12:26:35 pm

Your comment has made me happy because my objective is to share but, to also create room for thought. Your Comment was very thoughtful and I thank you for it:-) I, of course , agree with many of your points of thought as they are very accurate. Thank you for visiting AND participating....and please come back !

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